Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex--and How to Get It (Hardcover)
Enjoyable sex: its not about technique or a perfect body or being hopelessly, passionately in love. Its about Sexual Intelligence.
In his three decades of working with couples and individuals as a sex therapist and marriage counselor, Dr. Marty Klein has continually seen that although most people say what they want from sex is pleasure and closeness, thats not what they focus on during sex. Instead, were preoccupied with how we look, what our partner is thinking, how were performing, and whether were normal. We do more thinking, worrying, and judging than experiencing. Sex like that cant thrill us, cant create intimacy, and cant, well, feel sexy.
In Sexual Intelligence, Klein shows how to stop observing ourselves during sex, ending our obsession with sexual performance and sexual normality. I dont help people function better during sex, he says. I teach people how to relax and enjoy sex with the body they have, the partner they have, in the situation they have. Now thats something we all want: fulfilling, exciting sex at every stage of our lives.
In Sexual Intelligence, Klein challenges our understanding of sex, love, intimacy, romance, and satisfaction. After all, sex isnt just an activity. Change the way you think about sex, and you can change your sex lifeforever.
About the Author
Marty Klein, Ph.D. has been a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist for more than thirty years. A former contributing editor to The New Physician, American Baby, and Modern Bride, he has written for Mademoiselle, Mens Journal, Parents, and Playboy, as well as PsychologyToday.com and AlterNet.org. A sought-after lecturer and courtroom expert, Klein has been quoted in Newsweek, The New Yorker, and the New York Times. He has appeared on TV shows including 20/20, Nightline, and Penn & Teller. Klein lives in Palo Alto, California.
Praise for Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex--and How to Get It…
“Marty Klein is the Steve Jobs of sex advice. With beguiling ease, he takes complex issues and distills them down to their essence. Sexual Intelligence is a work of enormous wisdom and expansiveness, and will inspire readers, regardless of age, to realize their full sexual potential.”
-Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First
“Marty Klein’s is a calm voice of reason at the center of the storm raging around sex in America. His tolerant, informed approach to the unavoidable sexual difficulties we all face is a welcome antidote to the panic and ignorance clouding public discussion and private understanding.”
-Christopher Ryan, Ph.D., co-author of Sex at Dawn
“Sexual Intelligence will help you fire the sex cops who have set up roadblocks in your head, and replace them with some good ideas to ponder and put into action. Dr.Klein has truly given us a helpful guide to authentic sexual satisfaction.”
-Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger and Marriage Rules
“If you read only one book on sex and relationships during your entire lifetime, this should be it. Dr. Klein confronts the problems that have plagued couples since the beginning of time with refreshingly simple and brilliant insight.”
-Paul Joannides, Psy.D., author of Guide to Getting It On
“Instead of a manual of better tricks, this book is a practical plan to improve your relationship with your sexuality. Klein liberates and provokes--and illuminates the way to change your sexual experience for good.”
-Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity
“Read this if you want to let go of your inhibitions and improve your sex life. You might have to change your mind-set first, but Klein’s advice, quizzes, diagrams, and case studies will help you do just that.”
“Klein is comforting and permission-giving, while presenting boundaries that you can discuss with a partner if you have concerns. This is an easy to read, smart book with loads of information and advice. Sexual Intelligence is an important contribution to the field and to the reader.”
-Dr. Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., sex/relationship expert, AARP; chief relationship expert, PerfectMatch.com